preschool and learning goals- or why NOT to have them

I've been thinking a lot lately, thanks to a post I read over at the Sonlight forums last week. A mom asked on the forum there for the preschool cores what goals we set for our little learners to accomplish prior to the start of their K year. I answered, and then thought that it may be an interesting topic to cover here too just so anyone who reads this blog can better understand how we teach here in my home.

In our family, its not what the children learn so much as it is the journey they take to learning the material. We call ourselves eclectic unschoolers, which is a bit of an oxymoron. See, an eclectic homeschooler uses a variety of curricula to tailor the schooling as much as possible to their child's individual needs, taking current interests into account and changing up what doesn't work as needed. An unschooler has faith that a child will learn what they need to as they need and want to, and they provide incredibly rich learning environments and get their children involved in activities such as having a garden, taking care of pets, cooking, pursuing an area of the arts or athletics (or both!), and just about anything else you can think of. We are the best of both worlds. I use a variety of curricula as desired/needed for different subjects, particularly reading, writing, and math. Then I have curriculum for history and science, but we use it more exploratory. We may spent a year studying the same time period that is assigned to just 6-8 weeks in our history program, doing a lesson when they want to from the program or watching documentaries that go with the subject, finding information online, doing crafts and projects to replicate (sort of!) different things in our topic. Right now we're in Mesopotamia still, and the kids are waiting for me to feel the weather is good enough for us to go outside to try making mud bricks to build a small wall with. Yet, we don't pressure the kids. I suggest to them that they do some math or reading dailybut if they don't it is ok because I know that when they do, they will do multiple pages at a time and be more receptive to the work. I don't stress, and we have about as rich a learning environment as I can think of to do in our home with my physical limitations.

So, how does this apply to preschoolers? Well, my little Jojo, at the sweet age of 3 1/2 years old, is a preschooler now. She asked for some schoolwork like her big sisters do, I got her a few things to do gently with her. But I also thought about what my real goals with her are. I've never actually set goals for my preschoolers, as they have all be more than ready for K material when it comes time to start their K year at home. I had to really stop and think about what it is that I set out to do with my preschoolers, and here is what I came up with.

1. love learning Now, this sounds a bit odd to many, especially if you have children who go to public school. Those kids tend to HATE school by the time they hit 3rd or 4th grade, so loving to learn would be a foreign concept to some of these parents. However, this is one of my biggest goals for this age. Since we learn in a more organic manner, providing the tools for the girls to learn while not forcing them at the same time, it is vital that our girls be interested in learning more about things and know how to go about learning about what they are interested in. The preschooler's focus for this particular skill is to develop a love for learning about things. We do this by trying to always take the time to answer when one asks "why?" or "how?" or any question like that.

2. get down and dirty with life We do a lot of hands-on stuff. A LOT. Like I mentioned earlier, we are waiting on the weather to get just right for us to make mud bricks. We also are planning on building raised garden boxes this year and attempting to grow some food to take a little strain off our grocery budget. We don't have any pets due to Kimi having too many allergies to allow that, but we go to the Columbus Zoo regularly and they have a petting zoo for the kids, and the aquarium has a spot where you can get in line and wash your hands first to touch some of the sea life they have there (starfish, anemone, stuff like that). You can pet some reptiles there too sometimes, and we can ALWAYS see the animals. Last year, the girls couldn't get enough of the elephants (particularly the baby elephant). We cook with the kids. Just last week Missa made a lasagna with my help, she loves cooking and is pretty good at it for a kid her age.

3. develop a desire to be a part of our team Working together as a family is necessary in some parts of our life. With 6 people, that can make for a lot of messes. However, it also means that there are 12 hands to help pick up those messes, making the work just that much lighter for me. It also means that yard work is done faster, in theory. I have the ability to have the girls work in pairs to do different tasks, and if the job is too difficult for the little ones to help the oldest two take turns working with me while the one not working with me keeps her little sisters entertained. A preschooler can help water a garden, put the pulled weeds into a trash can, and pick up sticks. The extra 4 bodies means that grocery shopping can be done easier. The little ones help with getting things from the bottom shelves to put in the cart, and the oldest girls can push a shopping cart if I need more than one cart. If I go to Aldi, I can easily fill 3 or 4 shopping carts with food so having them able to push a cart really helps a lot. They all help bring in and put away groceries, with me standing at the van passing out bags they can carry until the last ones are ready to go in and then delegating who puts what kinds of stuff away and who unpacks bags for us to put the stuff away.

4. not let her get lost in the shuffle of our BUSY life Let's face it. With homeschooling and having 4 kids, me in college full time, and the various other things I do outside of typical housework and cooking, it can be hard to remember that the preschoolers are there at times. I regularly forget that my preschoolers need to have time focused on them too. It takes extra effort for me to remember this, and I use many different things to do this. I buy curriculum as soon as they start asking and I can afford it, giving me something to do with my preschooler. I have many books that I, my husband, or the oldest girls can read to a preschooler or toddler, and tomorrow I'll have All About Reading pre-level 1 for Jojo to do with me. She and I will take the time to do a bit of creative sewing to make a tote bag and matching apron for her, as well as make a puppet to go with it since I bought the basic package instead of the deluxe. At some point this week Sonlight will ship the handwriting books I got, one of which is for Jojo along with a math workbook that I have coming from them as well. I will use these materials as a way to remember to spend time daily with her as well as her sisters.

For us, the preschool and K years are the foundational years in our homeschool. These are the years that we have the most impact on the future of our little learners. What we do now to encourage or discourage them will shape the way they live and learn for the rest of their lives. Our biggest goals are to have the foundations they need for learning, living, respecting others, and loving God. If these foundations are laid effectively now, then later when they are learning the important academic foundation skills of basic math, effective reading, and the ability to write clearly and purposefully those skills will be easier for them and they will be more motivated (hopefully!) to work on it when they do not understand.

Learning does not stop just because one graduates from high school or college, or when they finish their studying for school each day. To live without learning is to die intellectually. My goal for these early years that all my girls are in with their schooling is to build the foundation they will need to not just learn effectively, but to WANT to learn constantly in their lives.